Will Their Differing Views on Parenting Matter? | Tell My Story, Blind Date


– You don’t like the word kinky? – Sounds like whip lashings
and latex, spankings, and– – Some like overly, overly romantic. – You thought what I said was romantic? – Oh, shoot. – Someone I’m looking for. Tall, dark and handsome is great. A man who knows who he is, is very comfortable in himself, has an open mind, will listen. – I find myself drawn
to free-spirited people. Very open-minded, somebody
that is very genuine. You know, I don’t really care who you are. But what I care about is if you’re 100% being yourself. – I actually prefer him to not have the same background as I do. Only just ’cause, he can learn about my
culture and vice versa. And I would love to learn more about other people’s cultures. – I don’t mind if somebody’s
a different culture. But, you know, it’d be nice if somebody grew up
similarly to how I grew up, ’cause I feel like just
culture, tradition, and morals is what I really care about rather than where the person’s from. Your name is Trisha,
and this is your story. You’re 24 years old. For work, you’re in marketing. You grew up in San Francisco. Your heritage is Vietnamese. You have three siblings
and you’re the oldest. My name is April, and this is my story. I’m 27 years old. For work, I’m a program manager at a summer program for high schoolers. I grew up in California. San Francisco. My heritage is Cantonese. I have no siblings. I’m an only child. So the oldest, middle, and the youngest. Your name is Jeremy,
and this is your story. You are 32 years old. For work, you are an Apple employee. You grew up in Louisiana, and your family heritage
is African American. You have three siblings, and you are the middle of both of them. – My name is Saheed, and this is my story. I’m 25 years old. I work in management,
entertainment industry for music. I’m from Houston, Texas, from the south still. I’m Nigerian. I do have three siblings. I’m the youngest. – Cool. Are you originally from Nigeria? – I was actually born in Houston. My parents are from Nigeria,
so I’m first generation. – What brings you out to L.A.? – Music. Houston is a great city, but it’s really not the best place to be in the entertainment industry. – Uh-huh. – So, L.A., New York, Atlanta,
those are the places to go. – Who’s your favorite artist right now? – Oh man, that’s tough. – There’s a lot. – There’s a lot of artists. I really love what Kendrick is doing. So like, growing up as an only child, did you ever want siblings? How did that feel? – At one point, I did. But then I realized how nice it was to have a lot of alone time. Which is good because, you know, you come into this world alone and you kind of, you leave alone. – That’s dark, but it’s true. – Sorry, I’m so sorry! – No, it’s true, it’s true. You thought I was 32? – Look, black don’t crack, right? Asians don’t age either, apparently. – No, that’s true, I’ll take that. – You thought I was 25, so. – I thought you was 24. – Oh 24, excuse me. – Yeah. – That works, right? That works. So Saheed, your favorite type
of music is rap and hip-hop. You have always wanted to be in a band. Your guilty pleasure
music is Ariana Grande. The first concert you
ever went to was Drake. You do not dance to music
when you’re alone in the car. You can beat box. The song you listen to when
you’re heartbroken or sad? I would say “Get it Together” by Drake. – April, my favorite type of music is experimental R&B and hip-hop. – Okay. – I have actually never
wanted to be in a band. – Oh. – Well, I mean, I feel
like I’m a one man band, if I was gonna be an artist. – Okay. – My guilty pleasure music
is NSYNC, Britney Spears, and sometimes Miley Cyrus. – Wow. – First concert I ever went to
was a Kendrick Lamar concert. Long time ago.
– B-b-b-bow. – Section 80.
– C’mon. – I do very much dance when
I’m by myself in the car. A lot.
– Okay. – Every time. – Good, I’m glad. – I can’t really beat box. I mean–
– Oh. – I can beat box, but
I don’t beat box well. – Okay. – So I guess I cannot beat box.
– Okay. – The song that I listen
to when I’m heartbroken is “Hello” by Lionel Richie. April, your favorite type
of music is hip-hop and R&B. You have never wanted to be in a band. Your guilty pleasure music
is Sheck Wes and Lil Yachty. The first concert you ever
went to was a festival. You do dance in the car when you’re by yourself. You cannot beat box at all. – Wow, just throw me under the bus, okay. Whatever. And the song you listen to
when you’re heartbroken or sad is “We Belong Together” by Mariah Carey. – That’s a good one. – That’s a great song. – That’s a great song.
– Yeah. – My favorite type of
music is pop or Broadway. – Wow. – Yeah. I have always wanted to be in a band. – Really? – Yeah. My guilty pleasure
music is Britney Spears. The first concert I ever went
to was called Bandamonium, and it was four boy bands. It was great. I do dance to music when
I’m in the car alone. It’s a one-woman show. Cannot beat box for my life. And the one song I do listen to when I’m heartbroken or sad is “When I was Your Man” by Bruno Mars. – Wow, that’s the saddest song. – Oh, so sad. And I’m just like,
“Man, I wish I did this, “I did this,” but, we’re not
gonna talk about sad stuff. – No. Moving forward. – Not today. Okay, so you saw Kendrick Lamar. Where’d you see Kendrick? – I saw him in Houston. – I got to see him at Staples. So good! – Really?
– It was so good! It was good. – Broadway, though? – Well, I love musical theater. That was actually what I graduated in. – No way. – Yeah, so, I also sing,
dance, and act, as well. You never wanted to be in a band? – I just never really wanted
all the other people on stage. If something goes wrong, I wanna be able to look
at myself and be like, “I did that wrong.” – Right.
– So if I’m on stage, only I can mess up, unless the sound guy messes up, but… These guys are doing a good job. But you do sing, dance, and act. – I do. So, when I was in elementary
school, my friends and I, one of them played the guitar,
one of them played the drums, and I sang. – Really? – That was it.
– In elementary? – Look. That was a long time ago. – Did you perform in
front of anybody, ever? – All the time. Which was kind of really annoying. Like, I was really annoying. – I wanna hear something. – Um… Man. ♪ Somethin’ ’bout you makes
me feel a dangerous woman ♪ ♪ Somethin’ ’bout, somethin’ bout ♪ – Yo, what? Yeah. – I did not expect that
voice to come out of you. – Oh, thank you. I appreciate it. – That was amazing. – Thank you! Thanks, thanks.
– Wow. – Appreciate it. All right, Saheed. You wanna have eight kids. You think having your own biological children is important to you. You would not consider adopting children. You do not believe in spanking your kid. It is important to you that your children are raised with religion. You want to send your
kid to public school. The most important quality for you to instill in your child is treating others with kindness. Your reaction to an unexpected pregnancy would be excitement. – Well, April, I would like
to have at least five kids. You were spot on. Like, I wouldn’t mind having eight kids. Honestly, I wouldn’t. Having my own biological
children is very important to me, but I would consider adopting. – Okay. I do believe in spanking my kids. Very much.
– Okay! – It works.
– It works. – It is very important to raise kids with some type of religion,
some type of faith. – Okay. – I would wanna send my
children to a public school. You learn a lot from public school. Stuff you can’t even learn from me. – Mm-hm. – The most important quality I would instill in my child is honesty. Honesty goes a long way. And my reaction to an unexpected pregnancy would be, “Uh-oh.” – Okay. – But as for you, April,
you wanna have three kids. Having your biological
children is important to you, but you would also
consider adopting children. You do believe in spanking your kids. It is important to you to
raise children with religion. You want to send your
kids to a private school. The most important
quality for you to instill in your child is integrity. And your reaction to
an unexpected pregnancy would be, “Hooray.” – Hooray. All right, well, Saheed. I would wanna have two kids. – Okay. – Having my own biological
children is important to me, and I would consider
adopting children as well. I actually do not believe
in spanking my kid. I didn’t get spanked, so… – Oh, okay. That makes sense.
– Because my mom would just yell at me. It is important to me that my children are raised with religion. I would actually send my kids
to public school, though. Like you said, you learn
things in public school you would not learn in private. – Yeah. – The most important quality for me to instill in my kids is wisdom. And my reaction to an unexpected
pregnancy would be shocked. I would be speechless. Not in a good or bad
way, but I’d just be– – Just, straight line. – Yeah. Yeah. So why do you believe in
spanking your children? – I just feel like words
are cool, you know? – Are cool. – But traditionally, when our
parents were being raised, spanking was normal. – Yeah. – And I think that spanking
became normal for a reason. I don’t think it’s a random
occurrence in history. I think it existed for
a reason, and it works. – Okay. – So that’s why I think
spanking could be important. But there are other ways, you know? It ain’t just spanking. I feel you. Why do you think spanking
is not a good thing? – I would hate to see my child get hurt, especially by me, and
I know moms say like, “This hurts me as much as it hurts you,” but I think that also
instills a sense of PTSD for the child, a little bit. – PTSD? – Yeah, we’re getting deep here, today! – You ever tried to like, talk it out with a three, four year old? – We have coffee sometimes. Just kidding. It’s a little different, absolutely. I put more perspective into it. Is that strange? Or I’d let them– – Would you be mad if I took your toy? – Yeah! – See, like, when I was a child, and the people I grew up around, “Oh, I can do this, and
all I’ll get is a talk? “I’ma do this all day.
– Right. – “And we just keep talkin’.” – I guess my upbringing was more so– – So a strict household
is what you would prefer? – 1,000–
– But just no spankings. – Yeah, 1,000%. – April, you first learned
about sex from your mom. I think to you, you do think it’s important for couples to discuss
their sexual histories. You believe 10 is too
many past sexual partners. When in a relationship,
masturbation is okay. Pornography is not a form of infidelity. A physical trait that turns you on is abs. A personality trait that
turns you on is humor. You would consider
yourself a kinky person. – Are you saying the abs
because you have abs? – Nah, I just… I mean, yes, but– – Okay, that’s all. Actually, I first– I first learned about sex from school. Sexual education. I do think it is important for couples to discuss their sexual histories, and I do believe five
to 10 is too many past– – Five to ten, more on the 10 side, or more on the five side?
– On the 10 side. More on the 10 side. When in a relationship,
masturbation is okay. Pornography is a form of infidelity. – Hm. – A physical trait that turns me on is actually a beautiful smile. A personality trait that
turns me on is humor. You got that spot on. And I would consider myself kinky. – Okay. That’s good to know. – I would say that you
first learned about sex from school as well. You do think it’s important for couples to discuss
their sexual histories. You believe, also, five to 10 is too many past sexual
partners, leaning on the 10 side. When in a relationship,
masturbation is not okay. Pornography is not a form of infidelity. A physical trait that
turns you on is curves. A personality that
turns you on is loyalty, and you would consider yourself kinky. – You’re right, I did learn
about sex first from school, but it wasn’t from a class. – Oh. – I do think it’s important for couples to discuss their sexual histories. – Okay.
– I believe 20 is too many past sexual partners. When in a relationship,
masturbation is very much okay. – Okay. – Pornography is not a
form of infidelity to me. – Okay. – A physical trait that turns
me on is thighs, curves. I like curves. – Okay. – A personality trait
that turns me on is humor. – Oh. – And I do consider myself kinky. – Okay. – I don’t really like using
the word kinky, though. It sounds– – You don’t like the word kinky? – Sounds like whip lashes
and latex, spankings– – Some like, overly, overly romantic. – You thought what I said was romantic? – Oh, shoot. I mean, that’s your definition.
– Nah, nah! That’s cool!
– That is your definition. – I mean I’m just getting
your kinky levels– – Like, whipping and stuff,
that’s not my thing, either, but I’m not gonna lie, I do
have a pair of handcuffs. – Okay. – I do have a pair of handcuffs. – So you said that pornography
is a form of infidelity? – Yeah. – How? It’s just television, basically. – That’s not my thing. And then there’s a lot of
comparison that comes with it. – You said masturbation is okay. – Yeah, that is. – But you want that person to
masturbate to images of you? Or like, how does– – That would be best. – Because women masturbate
to what they think. Men, most of the time,
masturbate to what they– – [Both] See. – Yeah. – So, would you like– – There’s… Apple had created this really great thing called FaceTime. And there’s always been Skype, so… – So with the person that you’re with, you wanna be their everything
and their only thing? – Absolutely. – But would you watch
porn with your partner? – Sure. Why not? I would just, probably, sit
there and giggle the whole time. – April, I think a deal breaker for you, one of them would be somebody being broke. I think another one would be
somebody taking hardcore drugs. – Okay. – And I think another one would be somebody already having kids. – All right. My deal breakers are politeness,
like being a gentleman, but that comes up with a lot. Terrible listener. Phew. And one really, really
big one for me is hygiene. – Okay. – Saheed, your deal breakers are, what I think, not being open minded, self-centered, egotistical. And I also put hygiene for you, too. – Hygiene is huge. I didn’t even think about hygiene. – That’s a big one. – My deal breakers are cigarettes. – Okay. – I don’t do the cigarette smoke. It just– – Okay. – Also, superficial. Materialistic. I don’t really do that, either. And another deal breaker would be somebody that’s gonna be really,
really lenient with children. I think that a lot of a relationship is the parallel thoughts about how they want the kids to be raised. And no matter how much you love somebody, if you don’t see eye
to eye with that person when it comes to raising kids, then the relationship can’t work. – Right. – And I think that’s a huge part. – Saheed, when I first saw you, I said that I would date you. And now that I’ve gotten to know you, I would still date you. – April, when I first met you, saw you, I said that I would date you. And now that I’ve gotten
to know you, April, I would not date you. – Okay. – Um… – All good. – Now for me, when I first see anybody, obviously, that’s attractive, that’s beautiful, I keep it as a yes
until I know further on. But the reason why I said what I said is ’cause I feel like we would be super, super, super, super cool. But I’m not quite sure if
a full-blown relationship would be what’s best for us. I do connect with you,
you know what I mean? I really do connect with you. – That’s awesome. – And I’d love to have
people like you in my life, you know, especially
with a sense of humor, somebody that can think. I don’t know if we would be compatible as far as in a full-blown relationship, but I feel it’d get complicated. – You really think so. – I think so. I think it would. – I just said, “Yes,” ’cause
I like to keep my mind open. It could be something more. It could just stay platonic. But I wouldn’t mind experiencing that. – Okay. – When I found out that he
didn’t wanna actually date me, I was kind of shocked at first. When you get rejected by somebody, the initial emotion is like, “Whoa, wait.” – I enjoyed talking to her. I enjoyed her company, and
she was really vivacious. Now, I wouldn’t say she lost me. I would just say I think long-term. And thinkin’ long-term, I just felt like I found a moment where
somewhere down the line, there could be separate thoughts that separate and be complicated. – But I understand what he
means by the friend vibe. I’m okay with it, ’cause I just know that he’s probably not the one. ♪ SoulPancake ♪ ♪ Subscribe ♪ Hey guys! Thank you so much for
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